February 18 — Marriage

Matthew 19:3-9
What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.

I have looked with a magnifying glass, seeking to examine every letter and space between letters and words, to no avail. I cannot find anywhere in any Bible text relating to marriage a promise that this institution that God created and blessed would be a perfect union of complete bliss and peace.

The very fact that God saw the need to put a restriction upon marriage from the beginning does not, however, need any special viewing apparatus. The reason is obvious. Here’s a hint: a three letter word that starts with “s.”

All our personal weaknesses seem to be magnified in a marriage. All our pet peeves seem to be found in our spouse. Our spouse knows our sins better than we do. There is no greater exasperation experienced than living with our “better” half on a day-to-day basis.

If you are looking for a miracle these days, look no further than your marriage. Two people, sometimes polar opposites, are still able to live with each other for years, decades even, without killing each other. This is astounding. And on top of all that, after all that, the love that first brought us together does not just still exist, but flourishes and grows.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 has this pertinent phrase for marriage: “A three-fold cord is not easily broken.” Two people, with different personalities, likes, dis-likes, warts and all, wrapped around the strong central fiber of the Lord, are able to withstand all assaults, all challenges, all trials and tribulations thrown at them. When husband and wife confess and forgive one another, the bond grows stronger between a couple and between them and their Lord.

Christ, our Lord, thank You for dying for me and my spouse. Thank You for forgiving both our sins. As the couple that prays together stays together, bind my family together. Amen.

Rev. Ray Salemink
Trinity Lutheran Church, Ellettsville, IN